Don't you wish people would just say it? 'It's not me, it's you.' Those on the receiving end of a breakup seek closure in order to move on. They want to know what went wrong and what they could have done to change things (if anything at all). Was it something they said or something they did?
Those on the giving end of a breakup want to say as little as possible and make it as painless as possible. Is there anything painless about a breakup? Even mutual endings produce wounds.
So wouldn't it make more sense to just be honest and say, 'it's not me, it's you'? Not in a malicious way, but in a kind, loving way. It's going to hurt no matter what, but this way the person on the receiving end isn't spending countless sleepless nights going over every detail of the relationship wondering when and where it went wrong. Hating themselves and not even knowing why (they shouldn't hate themselves regardless).
We spend so much time avoiding pain. It is a natural part of the human experience. Yet we don't deal with it very well. Or at least I don't.
I want to move on from past hurts. And be a stronger person. Regardless if, it was me and not them.
I am a daughter, sister, auntie, wife and friend.