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KNOW THIS. YOU MATTER . MND XO

Confessions of a Coach

9/15/2020

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I am mourning the loss of the forced stoppage of sport. It came at a time when our athletes were on their regular break after nationals. We pushed return to practice back by a week so that they could focus on final exams. After which it was apparent return to sport was not an option over the summer. Athletes were given workouts to do on their own. We had
no answers for them.

I used this time to slow down. Eat supper at a normal time. Do at home workouts. Go for epic walks and bike rides. I did not pine to return back to normal. I quite liked this change of pace.

I thought I might read more. That didn’t happen. I thought I might do some spring cleaning. That didn’t happen. I thought I might clean out my inbox. That didn’t happen.

When people asked the loaded question “how are you?”, I could honestly say “fine”. Anxiety has a weird way of helping you in these situations.

It is not to say I didn’t have ups and downs. They just weren’t as evident as the stories I read on Facebook or Instagram of people who were really struggling with all the changes happening so fast. I empathize, their world was turned upside down in a matter of days. And they didn’t know how to react or feel. I deal with upside down thoughts all the time. And I don’t always know how to react or feel.

Our program just started up again and I am mourning the loss of my slow paced summer. I feel as if I have gone from zero to 100 in a matter of days. I’m already signed up for more webinars than I have done all year. Practices are five days a week and I am back to eating supper at a late hour (even with prep the night before).

This time of year always brings challenges. It is dark by 8:30 pm. I am rushing from home to work to track to home on a daily basis. Fatigue looms large. I hoped I could bank the hours I spent napping for this very season.

Add to this the fatigue of hearing/seeing countless accounts of unarmed Black (mostly) men being murdered. The fatigue of reading people deny Canada has a problem with racism (or saying its not as bad as our neighbours to the south). Then there's the fatigue of watching your friends deal with this situation by sharing every single new thing they have learned about racism (as if these aren't things I think about regularly - not by choice).

Do I love coaching. Absolutely. Did I miss my kids. Absolutely. Do I want more space for myself. Absolutely.

There is no right or wrong in how I am feeling. I would not be true to myself if I did not acknowledge my true feelings.
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​I hope this gives people permission to feel what they are feeling. Wholeheartedly.
mnd xo
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Sabrina
9/16/2020 13:09:33

Love this!!! Reading this is like someone has verbalized my own thoughts and feelings since COVID began.

Am I excited to be coaching again? Of course. But did I like having time to rest and enjoy my life away from the track? Absolutely!

Am I glad there is more awareness and calls for reform of racism? Definitely! But is it emotionally exhausting to suddenly be having conversations about it all the time? Yes.

Really appreciated this blog post Mavis. It and you are amazing👏🏽👏🏽

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Mavis
9/22/2020 20:33:10

Sabrina,

I’m so glad this spoke to you. I often feel alone in my thoughts. And it can be hard sharing such musings. I know we have all dealt with this situation in different ways. My hope is that we collectively learn something from it. ?

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